On the Topic of Body Image (Whether You’re a Teen or Adult)

“Only 2% of women in the world find themselves beautiful.”


Oh friends…


In my work with teens, my relationship with my own teen daughters, the women around me, and the woman inside of me – the challenge of body image is waaay too often an issue. It’s like this sick intruder sneaking in to steal a bit of who you and I are – as women, as humans, and as individuals.

The intruder goes by many names – that of SHAME (it’s my fault – I should look different/better), of FEAR (how many calories was that / what if people won’t like me), of COMPARISON (at least I don’t look like… / if I could only look like…), of CRITICISM (I hate my body / look at her thighs in that dress), of DEPRESSION (nothing fits right / I can’t change), of REJECTION (he / she doesn’t think I’m as worthy or beautiful / they don’t want me), etc., etc., etc.

And we give that intruder the power to verbally and emotionally abuse us monthly / weekly / daily. We allow that violence to our very souls in a way that strips down the skin and bones and beauty we were born with – were created with – as it says, “YOU ARE NOT AS VALUABLE.”

And that’s a load of bull.


In case you need to hear that again – THAT’S A LOAD OF BULL.

Your skin and shape and face and size and mind and work and creativity and dreams and skills are the most valuable thing in human form. NO OTHER PERSON sits above or beneath you. NO OTHER PERSON ON EARTH has what you can offer.

So push that intruder out & silence it’s voice – by listening to your own true voice. The one you were born with that says, “I am me.”

Because nothing has the right to define you. You make your own definition of who you are and the role model for yourself that you want to be. And then you go speak that freedom to someone else.


If I could share one thing repeatedly regarding body image – it would be this speech.


​Model, Designer and Body Image Activist Ashley Graham delivers the Keynote Speach at the 22nd annual Women Mean Business Luncheon benefiting the First Step Job Training Program for homeless and low-income women on April 12, 2016 at the Pierre Hotel in NYC.


“You are bold, you are brilliant, and you are beautiful. There is no other woman like you because you are your own kind of woman.” May you embrace that truth today, sweet friends. May it wrap around you like a shield against the opinions of society and culture, and against the opinions of your own worst intruder.

May you embrace your body – whatever size you are – and reclaim its image as your own, in order to give it the love you so deserve. <3

Cheering us on in this community called Humanity…



  1. Kat Malone
    November 7, 2017 | 4:15 pm - Reply

    Thanks for posting this! Most of us needed to hear it :)

  2. Kristin Calderwood
    November 6, 2017 | 5:31 pm - Reply

    Thank you, Mary, for sharing this! What an incredible reminder to be our authentic selves and embrace the uniqueness of who we are! Love this!!

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