On the Topic of Kindness


“Kindness is the gift of life.”

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I love that.❤️

If you know me at all – you know that’s my flag. I so very much believe the use of kindness matters greatly (and yes it’s a choice to USE it or NOT).

Kindness to ourselves. To others. To the generation of youth that we adults are supposed to be setting the example for and coaching.

My question (to myself and our world) lately is simply – how am I – how are WE – doing at being that example? Because I’ll be honest… in all my years working with teens, schools, and kids, I’ve NEVER encountered the level of cruelty, rudeness, and bullying in them that I’ve seen on a daily basis from adults this past year.

And I just keep thinking WE ARE OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW BETTER.

We are old enough to know how to disagree and still show honor. Guys, we are old enough to value each other even when we don’t hold each other’s values. We are old enough to be winsome or else walk away when facing a fellow human.

That’s what’s on my heart today. May we practice kindness in the places around us that are parched for it.

Because we are SO VERY parched. Look at the people around us – at the store, the bank, the job, the facebook. ;) We are exhausted – not just by media and busyness – but by trying to be strong and brave in the face of a climate that so consistently critiques and tears down.

Be kind to yourself today. And be kind to the person on the other side of your screen / checkout counter / window / breathing space / bed.

For the sake of ourselves and the tender hearts watching & learning. 



Cheering us on in this community called Humanity…



  1. Marjory Abeyta
    October 2, 2017 | 6:05 pm - Reply

    Mary — I had the pleasure this last weekend to attend the Central Coast Writers Conference and participate in two of your classes. Loved your advice to us, and really, REALLY love this post, particularly in the face of what happened yesterday in Las Vegas. You’re totally spot on — the adults of this world ALL need to learn (relearn) kindness. Even if we have a difference of opinion or viewpoint, there’s no need for bashing or bullying. Just agree to disagree, respect each other’s perspective on life, and move on. Thank you for this lovely post……

    • October 3, 2017 | 7:40 pm - Reply

      Marjory, thank you so much for your beautiful note! And thank you for the kind words and your time given attending the classes. I had so much fun with everyone – and I’m grateful to meet people who believe so firmly in kindness too. <3 Much love. <3

  2. Kat
    August 29, 2017 | 10:38 pm - Reply

    Thank you!! Your an inspiration to us all

  3. Bonnie
    August 28, 2017 | 12:43 pm - Reply

    Well said! Thank you❤

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